icemann on 25/7/2018 at 17:22
Different time, different beliefs.
scumble on 27/7/2018 at 09:25
Quote Posted by Gray
You and I have had very different lives.
Some men do have a natural quality of being attractive to women. Something to do with this "charm" thing I've heard about.
Pyrian on 27/7/2018 at 23:37
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Charm is just looking someone in the eye and saying what pops into your head anyway.
That only works if you already
have it. For me, well, it tends to just come off as creepy, or judgmental.
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That's why I always urge putting yourself out there. If you do it enough you meet somebody you click with.
I agree with this. I mean, it's not
necessarily going to work and there are definitely big nono's and social graces to learn. But if you
don't put yourself out there, how are you ever going to meet anyone? Maybe someone'll scoop you up if you're lucky enough, but it's not something to count on.
Tocky on 28/7/2018 at 03:38
Creepy and judgemental? How? You are just being yourself. You are letting someone see into your soul. Just be careful about being too friendly when you are taken is all. What I'm doing with my stories is reliving things to try and figure them out and hoping for some lesson for me or others. Maybe I don't tell enough of the ones where things were worse or I was a dumbass though. Plenty of those too. I mostly don't like to think of those though. You have to admit, I have told some of those. Heh. You think my life would make a good movie though? I've thought of writing a book from my first memory to my latest and just throwing every damn thing in to see if I could make sense of any of it. Too egotistical an enterprise even for me though. Bad enough I have a whole thread.
I hope somebody saw my post and got some good out of it though.
Pyrian on 28/7/2018 at 04:18
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Dude. ... Fix that will you?
Sure. Sorry. I didn't think that through.
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And creepy and judgemental? How? You are just being yourself.
Well, yeah. :D As a teenager, I got my head filled with ideals of openness and honestly, and taught to wear my heart on my sleeve. I had to learn about discretion the hard way. I see you have your own sense of discretion, too. I won't question it, but in that light, I'll have to giggle a bit if you question mine.
Tocky on 28/7/2018 at 04:40
Ha! I didn't realize how that sounded! Not how I meant it.
Yeah. You lay your heart on the chopping block and get surprised it gets chopped. Go figure. You can't be too honest. But just remember if you ever do want to be too honest I've got a thread just for it. I think I'll crank my honesty back a tad.
icemann on 28/7/2018 at 05:27
Be honest with those you aim for. ALWAYS be yourself. If they don't like you for you, then that is their loss not yours.
I take the exact same outlook with job interviews (which is why they don't stress me out anymore).
We all fear rejection, but not knowing her answer is MUCH worser than knowing. Its those you never went for that you remember for the rest of your life. Use that to inspire you.
I used to get bullied in high school for the way I am, but I survived it. I beat them. Be strong in who you are, as there is nothing wrong with you. Its them with the issues.