BrokenArts on 12/5/2012 at 23:42

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Well we all have mums and mothers, some are here, and some are not. Its mothers day tomorrow in the US, and to everyone's mom, mum, mother, everywhere happy mothers day.

Its a bit of a mixed bag, part of me feels sad, though I shouldn't. My mom is still here, I'm thankful for that. My parents had me late in their lives, being the youngest of 7 kids. My mom will be 85 this year, its hard to watch your parents grow old, it really is. There was one point this past 6 months, she was going through a rough patch, from rearranging the furniture in the main lobby where she is living to just walking into peoples apartments. :eek: "Mom, you shouldn't be doing that!" we told her. Her response? "Well, they shouldn't keep their door unlocked." :sweat::( She is in assisted living now.
I was mourning the loss of the mom I once had, it was weird, and part of me felt guilty for feeling that. It just snuck up on me. Pick myself up and go onward. Her memory is going, she could be worse off for sure. She isn't the same anymore, she isn't the same mom I've known. But again, she is still here, for that I'm thankful. I carry with me all the good things, and the memories.

She never went to college, but pushed and talked to all of us about college, she wanted better for us, and we got it. Everyone one of us turned out alright. She always took care of things, and was always there, bit of a hard ass sometimes, busy, busy woman, but soft spoken. No parents are perfect, I wouldn't trade mine in for anything.

SubJeff on 13/5/2012 at 09:01

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Thats sad and beautiful BA. I know how you feel somewhat. My mom is just starting to forget thinks, confuse things, do mildly unreasonable things. I still cherish every moment though.

But I don't know about mothers day. Feels like another card company money making day...

Dia on 13/5/2012 at 11:47

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Not if you make your own card and gift; moms love that kind of stuff. I know I always have. I still have the little tiny handprints cast in plaster that my kids gave me when they were knee-high-to-grasshoppers. Yeah, moms go all maudlin & mushy over stuff like that.

My mom passed away in August of 2010 at the age of 80 and I will forever miss her. Towards the end she was frail and sometimes confused, but still had that spark that defined her. Mom had stage 4 cancer, but always said she knew it wouldn't be the 'Big C' that got her in the end. Turned out she was right: one late summer afternoon she decided to walk down the three steps to my sister's patio, sans walker (which she knew she wasn't supposed to do), fell and hit her head. She died two days later. That was my mom - always pushing the boundaries and doing as she damn well pleased. God bless her! I'm sure she's somewhere 'up there' giving the angels migraines (she was quite the chatterbox; fluent in four languages and chatty in all).

Happy Mothers Day to all the moms (and expecting moms)! May your day be full of everything maudlin and mushy.

:cheeky:

Dia on 13/5/2012 at 13:53

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I sympathize B'Arts. Totally.

Whether you're a mom or not, hope you enjoy the day; it looks as though it's going to be beautiful.

nickie on 13/5/2012 at 15:19

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My mother isn't at all impressed with mother's day. Over here we used to have Mothering Sunday which was supposed to be all about going back to your mother church. So, being a churchy sort of person, she's very keen on Mothering Sunday which doesn't seem to stop her expecting a card despite her intense dislike of the commercialism and change in meaning. It just gets harder and harder to find one with Mothering Sunday and not Mother's Day written on it. Ours is in March I think and this year I managed to get one in Welsh which went down well.

I'm quite keen on mother's day - it's bloody hard work and I like getting some thanks for it. :D

Like Dia, I've still got lovely stuff my children made for me. Now they write lovely things instead which is just as nice. I'm wondering now whether we've got a grandmother's day yet?

Have a lovely day, all of you.