Tocky on 14/5/2012 at 02:53
Attatchment parenting is a load of crap and that kid better learn to fight soon. Nice tits though.
That was sweet and sad BA. Mine is doing good. She has had heart problems, strokes, severe Chrones disease and she still tries to feed me every time I drop by to see how she is doing. All the family gathers around her and we have a big spread on mothers day but every Sunday those close bring a dish and we sit and jaw for awhile. She is the sweetest most demure thing but she loves gossip and we swap some. I often hear her stories from girlhood, the simple times when you milked cows and took the results down to the spring to cool until dinner and also the hard times when you worked all summer for school clothes only to have them stolen when you left them in a theatre and went to the restroom. There were happy times with her sisters and heartbreaking cruel times from dog vicious mean neighbors that make me ache for a time machine just to go back and beat the everloving crap out of them. All of it never touched her sweet giving nature though. She is a much better soul than I. I hope I can have her for a long time to come.
Shug on 14/5/2012 at 05:54
Quote Posted by Kolya
For those who don't know: Attachment Parenting emphasises emotional bonding through longer breast feeding and longer sleeping with the parents among other things. It is described as a stabilising factor for the emotional development of the child.
I haven't looked into any research on this, but it seems insane to me on the surface. You pour a lot of time and effort into parenting all through the day, I think it's important that you don't spend all night as parents, too.
Parents, especially of young children, often find it hard to have time together alone at the best of times. What can be more important for a child's emotional wellbeing than the health of the relationship that nurtures them?
Regardless, even if there were clear proof that doing this sort of thing produced a significantly better result I doubt we'd do it for reasons listed above
Master Villain on 15/5/2012 at 06:03
I looked at the Wikipedia piece on it and basically some man in the 1950s said women should spend more time looking after their children. Then some other man in the 70s said violence in society happens if women don't spend more time looking after their children.
I have a suspicion that there might be some subconscious bias underlying all this. :weird:
demagogue on 15/5/2012 at 08:07
Bias ... in holidays? Naaah, I'm sure it's as completely innocent and apolitical as May's other great holiday: that's right, May Day, which as we all know in America is "(
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Law_Day) National Respect Law and Order Day", which we celebrate by obeying the authorities, giving thanks for the laws that protect us, and beating all the illegal immigrants out of the ground with a stick so they slither out of the country.
scumble on 15/5/2012 at 12:28
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http://youtu.be/DuPBbFOiygo)
Still can't figure out how to embed videos in a forum post. The relevant bit is at about 2 minutes...
My grandmother is still about and she's 83. With any luck she will keep her marbles intact. She is still able to pick the kids up from school. I clearly am pretty lucky to have such a well-preserved grandparent. My grandfather's health was poor for some years before he died at 86...
Kolya on 15/5/2012 at 13:58
Quote Posted by Dia
I think what pissed off more moms than the picture was the caption; 'Are you mom enough?'
Yeah, I also thought that was more offensive than the picture. Most women would probably say "to each her own" after some weird looks. But painting it as if not nursing your 3 year old made you a bad mom is provocative and most likely contrary to the goal of gaining social acceptance for this kind of upbringing.
There's a million chances for failure in a human's life span. And there's none that hasn't been tried to attach to the first years of one's life and hence to the mothers. Whenever we cannot explain what's wrong with ourselves or someone else, from emotional instability to mass murder, there's someone to target silent or not so silent accusations at.
It's no wonder that this leads some women to overemphasise their role as mothers and I think that's the case with attachment parenting. Consequently I also think that it won't harm their children.
