SubJeff on 31/1/2011 at 10:37

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Agreeing too! We're on a triple here, all we need is ZylonBane to agree with us and we'll have some unholy quadrectra of frictional alignment on the dema's "shag for the community".

demagogue on 31/1/2011 at 13:58

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I should keep things in context at the same time, too.

That last paragraph was just a suspicion I had that starting a relationship for her wasn't an anti-religious thing for her; quite the contrary. And to be even more honest, it was pretty clear she started going out with me solely because she was in to me. (Would she do this for a homeless guy, or even a normal guy she didn't want to date? No way.)

But everything goes through a religious lens for this kind of personality, if you know what I mean. Everything has to have at least the pretext of being for some purpose, even though it's clearly just a normal situation. She got into it for the normal reasons women do, but it makes her happy to speak in terms of the pretext sometimes. This is just religious psychology 101. (In Christian terms, you might imagine a person starts a relationship because they think it's what God wants, when it's usually the other way around; they want the relationship, but need a retroactive narrative that it must be what God wants, and it's always about what God wants.) All I meant to say, and the way I should have worded that paragraph, is just that most everything goes through a religious lens for her, even things we Westerners might think is odd to think in religious terms (e.g., where we'd think there should just be an absolute separation). It just struck me the way she sometimes described a situation. Definitely a learning experience.

And of course it evolved as a normal relationship in any event, as far as dating a nun in law school in New York City can be "normal".

Edit: Koki's summation does admittedly have a ring to it though. I'll say something that isn't accurate to the situation, but ideally (if I were dramatizing this to a screenplay) I'd respond: I mean, imagine you know a cute disciple of mind-blowing, authentic tantric-sex that says with a wink she knows what can cure your ills. I think you're going to find yourself feeling more ill than you would otherwise, and be ready to play along. That's too cute to have happened in the real world like that, though; but it makes a good story.



Even though she could be very critical of them (or because of it), she was also very sensitive to what the other nuns thought of her. Coming back with a Westerner might have rocked the boat too much. She could cite the rules in minute detail why this was okay or that not, but then there's the interpersonal or social side of things where she could be at a loss, and again there was a pretext air to things.

Shug on 31/1/2011 at 15:41

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I'm already working on a french movie about your life

Briareos H on 31/1/2011 at 15:50

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irredeemably terrible one-liners (average 9 words per post)

Shug on 1/2/2011 at 03:50

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meow